Hey all
I'd like to ask for some help/hint, and objective observations on the following (I feel like I'm getting wrapped up in myself trying to see it objectively).
I was reading the you create your own reality thread http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=11160.0
And nomads reply started me thinking about a discussion with a friend recently. He's quite into YCYOR at the moment, and I was trying to explain (badly I realised) about seeing things objectively....I realised after a while that I was probably violating his free will, because I was trying to get him to see my point of view...I stopped at that point.
Nomads reply in that thread felt like a bit of a revelation http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=11160.msg78870#msg78870 , it laid it out very clearly.
I started thinking about how it would be good to show it to my friend, then I remembered about me trying to force (even subtly) my idea on him....seems I've had that trait for a long time now.
I read it a few times, and started getting that sinking horror when you start to see part of yourself...
Prior to this I'd noticed some patterns in my life....specifically I tend to like trying to fix things (computers)...but this is to the point where I have piles of unfixed computers laying around...
I know the theory (and quite a bit of the practical) of fixing them, and what I'd like to do with them...but it never comes out how I want
I've started to realise its a waist of energy, yet I put more and more into it to try and correct it!
In nomads post I saw for a minute or two how I am putting energy into my subjective point of view, following it and then when it fails investing more time/energy into it...always with a sense of fear/anxiety....that builds with the more energy I put in.
Talk about hit by a ton of bricks.
Another example I realise was for Christmas I decided to get everyone I know a book (from the recommended reading list or similar) along with other things.
I bought quite alot of books (always thinking who I know may have most use for it), and felt quite pleased with myself...then about an hour later felt quite depleted.
I realised at the time something had happened to my energy, but no idea what.
Now thinking of the pile of books and determining the needs of other brought back that anxiety and horror.....to think that I may have bought them all (put my energy into something) that was probably controlling (wanting them to come with me), self aggrandising (feeding)...and something they'd not asked for (although buying presents for Christmas is always odd like that).....so may receive like a bucket of vomit....thus a waste of my energy
After a few minutes of horror, I started thinking how I could limit the books going to people (maybe not so many of the in depth ones), how they'd probably receive them OK, and that they could at least choose not to read them, and maybe, just maybe they'd start to see some of the things in themselves I could...
I caught myself in what felt like a warm and comfortable soothing place in my head! Talk about wanting to vomit....
Now I seem to be stuck there, swinging between soothing and horror....
Part of me want to hear something comforting, that the books where OK presents and that they may well be received at least OK (no worse than socks)...
The other part of me wants to 'feel' the horror and get out of that warm and fuzzy place in my head.....which I can't seem to do
Its like suddenly discovering I'm a morphine addict, but I'm so full of morphine I can't seem to do (or feel) anything about it, because at the slightest hint of objective reality I borked and took another hit of morphine.
I know one of my major issues is being too much in my head....so on that note, any hints that may help me be less so? What to do with the books? Should I 'give' them anyway?
Do my observations need tuning? And how the hell do I get rid of the morphine!
I'd like to ask for some help/hint, and objective observations on the following (I feel like I'm getting wrapped up in myself trying to see it objectively).
I was reading the you create your own reality thread http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=11160.0
And nomads reply started me thinking about a discussion with a friend recently. He's quite into YCYOR at the moment, and I was trying to explain (badly I realised) about seeing things objectively....I realised after a while that I was probably violating his free will, because I was trying to get him to see my point of view...I stopped at that point.
Nomads reply in that thread felt like a bit of a revelation http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=11160.msg78870#msg78870 , it laid it out very clearly.
I started thinking about how it would be good to show it to my friend, then I remembered about me trying to force (even subtly) my idea on him....seems I've had that trait for a long time now.
I read it a few times, and started getting that sinking horror when you start to see part of yourself...
Nomad said:Perhaps yes, the power of the mind has the ability to alter reality? However there is quite a large caveat. It seems that if one acts on the basis of a subjective belief (we are all subjective to greater or lesser degree) then the results of ones actions will produce a different result from that which was intended. This has huge implications on everything we do.
Prior to this I'd noticed some patterns in my life....specifically I tend to like trying to fix things (computers)...but this is to the point where I have piles of unfixed computers laying around...
I know the theory (and quite a bit of the practical) of fixing them, and what I'd like to do with them...but it never comes out how I want
I've started to realise its a waist of energy, yet I put more and more into it to try and correct it!
In nomads post I saw for a minute or two how I am putting energy into my subjective point of view, following it and then when it fails investing more time/energy into it...always with a sense of fear/anxiety....that builds with the more energy I put in.
Talk about hit by a ton of bricks.
Another example I realise was for Christmas I decided to get everyone I know a book (from the recommended reading list or similar) along with other things.
I bought quite alot of books (always thinking who I know may have most use for it), and felt quite pleased with myself...then about an hour later felt quite depleted.
I realised at the time something had happened to my energy, but no idea what.
Now thinking of the pile of books and determining the needs of other brought back that anxiety and horror.....to think that I may have bought them all (put my energy into something) that was probably controlling (wanting them to come with me), self aggrandising (feeding)...and something they'd not asked for (although buying presents for Christmas is always odd like that).....so may receive like a bucket of vomit....thus a waste of my energy
After a few minutes of horror, I started thinking how I could limit the books going to people (maybe not so many of the in depth ones), how they'd probably receive them OK, and that they could at least choose not to read them, and maybe, just maybe they'd start to see some of the things in themselves I could...
I caught myself in what felt like a warm and comfortable soothing place in my head! Talk about wanting to vomit....
Now I seem to be stuck there, swinging between soothing and horror....
Part of me want to hear something comforting, that the books where OK presents and that they may well be received at least OK (no worse than socks)...
The other part of me wants to 'feel' the horror and get out of that warm and fuzzy place in my head.....which I can't seem to do
Its like suddenly discovering I'm a morphine addict, but I'm so full of morphine I can't seem to do (or feel) anything about it, because at the slightest hint of objective reality I borked and took another hit of morphine.
I know one of my major issues is being too much in my head....so on that note, any hints that may help me be less so? What to do with the books? Should I 'give' them anyway?
Do my observations need tuning? And how the hell do I get rid of the morphine!