I finished the Future Self Authoring program provided by Peterson's team in February. Since a few months, I'm starting to get better at handling a routine. Something that was severely lacking in my life, for sure. Having no boss other than myself since some time now, and being a terrible boss and a worse employee even, to begin with, I certainly have made progress. Thanks to our current renovation project, I found purpose and utility, hence obligation, and it's ever better since.
Since a long time, I wonder what are the actual routines of other Forum members. I'm sure it will provide inspiration and guidance if anyone is interested to share. It is a bit personal so I'm not sure if it should be placed in the Swamp or not. I'll leave it here, in the Work section but feel free to move it somewhere else if needed. I certainly am really curious about it, especially because it actually is in the routine that most battles go on. I used the framework of the Self-Authoring program so it's a bit long, and I'm sure others will picture their routines in a different way.
I will begin by listing my ideal routine based on the introspection the Self Authoring program led me to. Some of it is already being applied and some, not yet. I'll mention if it's actual or not.
I hadn't reviewed this part of the exercise since I finished it. I am glad to look at this detailed list of my goals again because I see that my objectives are rather well structured and reasonable thanks to this program and my presence here. It is now up to me to take responsibility for it and to keep in mind persistence, constant updating and the notion of scale to be adjusted. I see that my aspirations are noble and have value. I am proud of the result of this exercise after reading it and I feel I am heading in the right direction. I would advise it for anyone interested.
One most important message I got from Peterson:
Do not sacrifice what you could be for what you already are.
I would like to concentrate on the actual actions to be taken, leaving aside the goals, which inevitably transpire.
To avoid this, if I can't put in place what I recommended, I have to readjust instead of giving up everything so as not to change anything. If what I think is feasible is not, then I have to go down a notch. I have to go gradually to ensure that there are always slight, if not infinitesimal, improvements to the daily and weekly routine.
I need to aim low to start anything. Stay in the present to avoid anticipating what is not necessary.
Thanks for reading, and I hope some members will participate!
Since a long time, I wonder what are the actual routines of other Forum members. I'm sure it will provide inspiration and guidance if anyone is interested to share. It is a bit personal so I'm not sure if it should be placed in the Swamp or not. I'll leave it here, in the Work section but feel free to move it somewhere else if needed. I certainly am really curious about it, especially because it actually is in the routine that most battles go on. I used the framework of the Self-Authoring program so it's a bit long, and I'm sure others will picture their routines in a different way.
I will begin by listing my ideal routine based on the introspection the Self Authoring program led me to. Some of it is already being applied and some, not yet. I'll mention if it's actual or not.
I hadn't reviewed this part of the exercise since I finished it. I am glad to look at this detailed list of my goals again because I see that my objectives are rather well structured and reasonable thanks to this program and my presence here. It is now up to me to take responsibility for it and to keep in mind persistence, constant updating and the notion of scale to be adjusted. I see that my aspirations are noble and have value. I am proud of the result of this exercise after reading it and I feel I am heading in the right direction. I would advise it for anyone interested.
One most important message I got from Peterson:
Do not sacrifice what you could be for what you already are.
I would like to concentrate on the actual actions to be taken, leaving aside the goals, which inevitably transpire.
- I have to keep getting up early so I can do everything that needs to be done because I have to share my time between the forum, work, and reading. I'll keep waking up earlier with time, I went from no real obligation to 08.30 to 07.45. Considering I was a real "night owl", I can say it's been one of the best things I've done to feel better. It might seem like a joke for some "early birds", but so far, it is a real success to me. Obligating oneself is the best thing to do!
- With each interaction, I have to think: How can we make each other's lives more pleasant? Keeping external consideration in mind. Definitely, have to make more progress on this.
- I have to learn new things every day, and I have to change my routine based on new information. I should not try to impose anything, but rather illustrate the transformation by myself. Ongoing. Slow process.
- Recitation morning and before sleep since crystals are there. Singing, not as consistent, only when alone.
- Keeping a Food dairy, daily since the beginning of February with a few lacks.
- I have to check the forum once a day. Stay focused on one subject at a time, and give it my full attention when I'm there. I have to read every day too. Forum in the morning is fine for now. Reading for the evening and if away. Ongoing, have to be mindful not to forget daily priorities.
- The afternoon is for work on the house and site. Still, a lot to do.
- I have to post at least twice a week. I have to learn to give my opinion more spontaneously. To engage in conversation and imitate the older members. I have to give interest to others and their problems. I need to be able to ask for help, remain open in my formulations and talk about my problems. I need to have a more natural attitude and become more comfortable around here. Ongoing, great improvements in this area.
- Staying informed about the state of the world at least once a week. Ongoing, and a bit more than that.
- Write at least once a week too, on a dairy. Not actual.
- HIT exercises once a week. Ongoing.
- Take advantage of the shower(cold at least 50% of shower time) to allow me 5 minutes of movement. Joint mobilization, balance, unlocking. I also have to keep standing up straight and increase my movement snacks. Still too erratic for movement snacks and mobilization, though there is an improvement too.
- Breathing in 3 steps once a week. The Warrior's breath 3 times a week. The prayer of the Soul also, before going to sleep. I prefer not to aim too high because I eventually tend to aim too high and abandon everything. Not there yet. I was consistent for some months some years ago but it's not the case anymore.
- One day a week, I shall think about success. I will make it a fundamental thought to stay on the lookout for the best way to proceed. I'll come up with the idea if I keep looking. I need to feel congruent here. I want to find the interface between financial success/security and service to others. Discover or create a job that will allow me to be financially comfortable while being sincerely useful to others. I don't want to live in mediocrity. I would like to have more finances to achieve my goals, take care of myself and others, improve my knowledge, improve my environment. This requires determination but also finances. I would like to find the work that will help me to develop in this way. I have to meet a need if I want to succeed. I have to identify this need based on what I can bring myself. To do this, I must be attentive, to reality, left and right. The story of my life, many questions here.
- Listen to more podcasts, more regularly. 1 per week would be good. It is more about 1 per month for now.
- Maintain equipment and site more automatically and regularly. Improve consistency. Ongoing but erratic and not really scheduled.
- Regarding my family, I think that every 2 months, we have to review together what we want as a group. Does not happen that way for now. Things happen. We live together daily. However, we must be able to maintain a positive course and overcome certain negative trends. It is necessary to share and discuss. Lead others to progress. External consideration is the behavior underlying this goal.
- I must do the same for myself, every month, update myself as to my goals, and readjust them as to my real abilities. Well, I just started summing up my goals, so I'd better keep track, for the times to come.
- Regarding my girlfriend/wife, we must always communicate and not let dragons grow under the carpet. We have to talk about our personal stories every week. We must keep this complicity that characterizes us. Keep activities together and time alone. Go to conflict if needed and keep in mind the reformulation of the spouse's words to resolve them. Specify what we want and how we feel. We have to fight to stay together. We must not hide our individual weaknesses. Ressentiment must be brought to light every time it occurs. Shuffle the cards and accept each other. Ongoing and always improving.
- For both my family and my girlfriend/wife: Having beneficial activities in common is important. Sharing information together is important. Paying attention to what we are moving towards. Listening to each other, knowing what the other is going through. Play, alleviate, take care of others. Can always be improved.
To avoid this, if I can't put in place what I recommended, I have to readjust instead of giving up everything so as not to change anything. If what I think is feasible is not, then I have to go down a notch. I have to go gradually to ensure that there are always slight, if not infinitesimal, improvements to the daily and weekly routine.
I need to aim low to start anything. Stay in the present to avoid anticipating what is not necessary.
Thanks for reading, and I hope some members will participate!