Miss Isness
Jedi Master
I have been trying to get my head around the concept of paramoralisms, and I'd like to get some feedback on whether the story below involves a paramoralism. If so, what would be the proper way to deal with it?
Henry repeatedly shouts, 'Who are you talking to?' from one room to another, at his partner, who has just finished one phone conversation, and is in the the process of making another call. His partner responds out of frustration, 'I don't have to tell you who I'm talking to'. Henry then becomes angry and starts sulking. Afterwards, his partner explains that his way of asking was inappropriate, but that she doesn't have any problem telling him who she was talking to.
Henry and his partner have an answering service that takes the calls while the line is being used for the internet. A couple of days later, the phone rings as there is a message at the answering service, actually no message, just a phone number. Henry's partner calls the answering service and writes down the number. Right after that, Henry's cell phone rings. When Henry finishes, his partner asks him, 'Who called?'. Henry gruffly responds, 'A guy'. 'What guy?' asks his partner. 'A guy,' repeats Henry evasively. 'Well, do you think it's the same person who didn't leave a message?,' asks his partner. She reads off the number and he confirms it, but then seems unsure. Satisfied with knowing that the call was probably not someone looking for her, Henry's partner drops the subject.
A couple of days later, Henry and his partner have a talk about honesty and agree that they both have to focus on being more honest with each other. The next day when his partner starts talking about the signs editorial she is reading, Henry shuts down the discussion. His partner, frustrated and disappointed by Henry's unwillingness to look deeply into what's going on in the world, nonetheless respects his choice to end the conversation and stops talking. Henry then gets angry about his partner's facial expression and repeatedly demands, 'What's that look on your face?!' with a raised voice. He insists she is being disrespectful.
Eventually, she brings up their agreement to focus on being more open and honest, and reminds him about the caller he refused to identify. He suggests that it was someone plausible and goes on to accuse her of having a double standard because she didn't immediately tell him who she was speaking to when he so rudely interrupted her several days earlier. Before walking off and locking himself into his study he says, 'I don't have to tell you everything. You won't tell me, but you expect me to tell you!'
Henry's partner feels she is on the brink of insanity....
Henry repeatedly shouts, 'Who are you talking to?' from one room to another, at his partner, who has just finished one phone conversation, and is in the the process of making another call. His partner responds out of frustration, 'I don't have to tell you who I'm talking to'. Henry then becomes angry and starts sulking. Afterwards, his partner explains that his way of asking was inappropriate, but that she doesn't have any problem telling him who she was talking to.
Henry and his partner have an answering service that takes the calls while the line is being used for the internet. A couple of days later, the phone rings as there is a message at the answering service, actually no message, just a phone number. Henry's partner calls the answering service and writes down the number. Right after that, Henry's cell phone rings. When Henry finishes, his partner asks him, 'Who called?'. Henry gruffly responds, 'A guy'. 'What guy?' asks his partner. 'A guy,' repeats Henry evasively. 'Well, do you think it's the same person who didn't leave a message?,' asks his partner. She reads off the number and he confirms it, but then seems unsure. Satisfied with knowing that the call was probably not someone looking for her, Henry's partner drops the subject.
A couple of days later, Henry and his partner have a talk about honesty and agree that they both have to focus on being more honest with each other. The next day when his partner starts talking about the signs editorial she is reading, Henry shuts down the discussion. His partner, frustrated and disappointed by Henry's unwillingness to look deeply into what's going on in the world, nonetheless respects his choice to end the conversation and stops talking. Henry then gets angry about his partner's facial expression and repeatedly demands, 'What's that look on your face?!' with a raised voice. He insists she is being disrespectful.
Eventually, she brings up their agreement to focus on being more open and honest, and reminds him about the caller he refused to identify. He suggests that it was someone plausible and goes on to accuse her of having a double standard because she didn't immediately tell him who she was speaking to when he so rudely interrupted her several days earlier. Before walking off and locking himself into his study he says, 'I don't have to tell you everything. You won't tell me, but you expect me to tell you!'
Henry's partner feels she is on the brink of insanity....