The concept of fear in this context helps to put things in better perspective.Oxajil said:Perhaps this might help you understand better; from casschat:
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You have seen clearly into the source of many aspects of the Wrong Work in a person's psychology. You may have seen and experienced your own Chief Feature, Fear. But Fear, whether it is your Chief Feature or not, is at the source of Identification, etc. We fear rejection, being alone, being in need, being vulnerable. We are afraid of failure, commitment, appearing to not fit in, looking foolish, and deep inside more than anything we fear meaninglessness.
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All of these fears are Negative Emotions meaning Wrong Work of the Emotional Center and they result in Wrong Work in Personality.
Its kind of interesting how certain fears come reality when we react rather than act, based on primitive defense mechanisms. Or you're afraid to face something and then that means you have to face it, "All there is is lessons". After reading the above, I did a search on fear quotes and some of them are quite useful as food for thought...
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"Trauma engenders fear .... Both your actual parents' behavior and your internalized parents' critical messages, no matter how mystifying, are driven by FEARS: fear of being seen as flawed, fear of feeling powerless, fear of feeling invalidated, fear of feeling vulnerable, fear of losing emotional control."-Dan Neuharth
"Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live."-Dorothy Thompson
"There is nothing to fear except the persistent refusal to find out the truth, the persistent refusal to analyze the causes of happenings."-Dorothy Thompson
"Fear grows in darkness; if you think there's a bogeyman around, turn on the light."-Dorothy Thompson
"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
-- Frank Herbert, Dune. Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear.
"Nothing in the affairs of men is worthy of great anxiety."
-- Plato.
"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
-- Eric Hoffer.
"Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained."
-- Arthur Somers Roche.
"One will never reach distant shores,
if he chooses to remain upon the dock,
In fear his little ship of dreams
may be dashed against the rocks."
-- F. Bolen.
"Anything I've ever done that ultimately was worthwhile... initially scared me to death."
-- Betty Bender.
"Fear makes strangers of people who should be friends."
-- Shirley MacLaine.
"The basis of optimism is sheer terror."
-- Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray.
"The fear of being wrong is the prime inhibitor of the creative process."
-- Jean Bryant.
"Neither comprehension nor learning can take place in an atmosphere of anxiety."
-- Frank Smith.
"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear."
-- Ambrose Redmoon.
"If a man harbors any sort of fear, it percolates through all his thinking, damages his personality, makes him landlord to a ghost."
-- Lloyd Cassel Douglas.
"It has been said that our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but only empties today of its strength."
-- Charles Haddon Spurgeon.
"A further sign of health is that we don't become undone by fear and trembling, but we take it as a message that it's time to stop struggling and look directly at what's threatening us."
-- Pema Chodron.
"Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have."
-- Louis E. Boone.
"The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear."
-- Gandhi.
"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."
-- Dale Carnegie.
"Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson.
"He who loses wealth loses much; he who loses a friend loses more; but he that loses courage loses all."--Cervantes
"I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies, for the hardest victory is over self."-Aristotle
"Worry is a form of fear, and all forms of fear produce fatigue. A man who has learned not to feel fear will find th fatigue of daily life enormously diminished."-Bertrand Arthur William Russell
"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing that you will make one."-Elbert Hubbard
"We fear things in proportion to our ignorance of them."-Livy
“The key to change... is to let go of fear.”-Rosanne Cash
“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.”
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.”
"Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering." -Yoda
"Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose."-Yoda