agni
Dagobah Resident
Yesterday, as I was driving through neighborhood, a person driving behind me got pissed off, apparently for the reason that I was going to complete stop at stop signs. He was driving behind for several blocks. As there was time for him to turn, he aggressively threw couple of phrases at me and seemed really pissed off. I did not respond, and pretty much ignored it on the spot. Well.. that's what I thought initially.
When I got home I was not feeling at ease. In fact I was physically shaking. I felt anger running through me, that I got yelled at for no reason. Then I observed the following conversation between "i's"
(I will number my "i's" for an ease of reading.)
1) i was yelled at unjustly, i am hurting. i am angry. i did nothing wrong, i am concerned with safety of others.
2) People are STS. You are no exception. It's to be expected. (I will silence the pain my own way)
1) it does not help No.2. I am still hurting & angry. besides, i fear of possible retaliation, you do live in gangster wanna be neighborhood, remember?
2) You do not know that (about retaliation). Why would you even think that ? Do not assume. I need a break. i do not think i am thinking straight, i think you are way over-reacting and too pumped up.
3) just shut up, all of you. i am tired. Forget what you feel. Don't come back to it and it will go away. Do something else.
2) Right... you don't have enough things buried inside already, don't you ? They do affect your behavior whether you see it or not. Why not to calm down for now and revisit issue little bit later.
(break for couple of hours)
2) Okay, let's see what has caused such reaction…
4) First of all, before you address any of this, remember how you have behaved yesterday, when you were in a hurry, and a person driving in front of you was driving too slow ?
2) Indeed ! Good point, some "i" felt frustrated, though "i" did not choose to express it verbally. But i see how my behavior is not any different from the person that yelled at me in frustration.
4) Okay... why did you feel angry when someone yelled at you, but you did not question your own frustration when you were driving behind a "slow" person ?
2) Ha-haha.. True. Because i care only about myself, not others.
4) What are your thoughts on that ?
2) I don't quite sure what to say, besides that i have a lot of things to work on. But I can say for sure, I probably would not even question my own behavior if the person would not have yelled at me.. making me feel this way.
4) did he or did you make yourself feel this way ? Don't forget about the situation... It's not closed case yet. Keep thinking and revisiting it until all of "i" understand and in peace about it.
2) will do. thank you i's for helping me see some things that would probably would go un-noticed for a some time.
…..
The way i see who the "i's" are:
1) Ego/Self-importance
2) Lower intellectual
3) Not sure. Seems to be some "i" that does not care about the rest.
4) Either Lower intellectual talking to itself or is it consciousness ? It seems to be an some form of "observer", that is not hurting or needs anything.
There are several questions:
What no.3 might be ?
What no.4 might be ?
Do you think no.1 & 2 identified correctly ?
No.1 became silent and appears to be "less hurt" after conversation ended. Was it usurped by Lower intellectual center ?
No.3 did not show up anymore.
Do I show any signs of personality disorder ?
When I got home I was not feeling at ease. In fact I was physically shaking. I felt anger running through me, that I got yelled at for no reason. Then I observed the following conversation between "i's"
(I will number my "i's" for an ease of reading.)
1) i was yelled at unjustly, i am hurting. i am angry. i did nothing wrong, i am concerned with safety of others.
2) People are STS. You are no exception. It's to be expected. (I will silence the pain my own way)
1) it does not help No.2. I am still hurting & angry. besides, i fear of possible retaliation, you do live in gangster wanna be neighborhood, remember?
2) You do not know that (about retaliation). Why would you even think that ? Do not assume. I need a break. i do not think i am thinking straight, i think you are way over-reacting and too pumped up.
3) just shut up, all of you. i am tired. Forget what you feel. Don't come back to it and it will go away. Do something else.
2) Right... you don't have enough things buried inside already, don't you ? They do affect your behavior whether you see it or not. Why not to calm down for now and revisit issue little bit later.
(break for couple of hours)
2) Okay, let's see what has caused such reaction…
4) First of all, before you address any of this, remember how you have behaved yesterday, when you were in a hurry, and a person driving in front of you was driving too slow ?
2) Indeed ! Good point, some "i" felt frustrated, though "i" did not choose to express it verbally. But i see how my behavior is not any different from the person that yelled at me in frustration.
4) Okay... why did you feel angry when someone yelled at you, but you did not question your own frustration when you were driving behind a "slow" person ?
2) Ha-haha.. True. Because i care only about myself, not others.
4) What are your thoughts on that ?
2) I don't quite sure what to say, besides that i have a lot of things to work on. But I can say for sure, I probably would not even question my own behavior if the person would not have yelled at me.. making me feel this way.
4) did he or did you make yourself feel this way ? Don't forget about the situation... It's not closed case yet. Keep thinking and revisiting it until all of "i" understand and in peace about it.
2) will do. thank you i's for helping me see some things that would probably would go un-noticed for a some time.
…..
The way i see who the "i's" are:
1) Ego/Self-importance
2) Lower intellectual
3) Not sure. Seems to be some "i" that does not care about the rest.
4) Either Lower intellectual talking to itself or is it consciousness ? It seems to be an some form of "observer", that is not hurting or needs anything.
There are several questions:
What no.3 might be ?
What no.4 might be ?
Do you think no.1 & 2 identified correctly ?
No.1 became silent and appears to be "less hurt" after conversation ended. Was it usurped by Lower intellectual center ?
No.3 did not show up anymore.
Do I show any signs of personality disorder ?