The Psychology of Being Influenced

Renaissance

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Here's a pretty astonishing example of how our easy our minds can be influenced by subtle cues into conforming behavior.


It's a pretty creepy insight into how open our minds are, even when having disagreeable attitudes toward the cues. Might infantile narcissism be a factor here? If so, these so-called 'influencers' may in fact be more susceptible to such things than most. I'm sure the psychological structures that these cues tap into are shared across the board, but then the question comes of how to secure your mind from such influences? What is it that makes us vulnerable? We've seen this dynamic play out with the shutdowns in large portions of the population conforming to the media's coronavirus cues where they have demanded their rights, their livelihoods, their children's development, and even their health being taken away. It's quite astonishing.

An interesting comparison is that 'influencers' are typically pretty desperate to please their followers, and you can easily recognize how desperate the corona Karen's are to please authority. These people haven't actually grown up to become adults. They are children who are fawning or stamping their feet for attention.

My guess is those engaged in continually taking on more and more difficult responsibilities are those who become less easily influenced. Taking ownership of your own learning and development also seems to naturally create healthier adult bonds with others, which in turn seems to create a natural defense as well. I think having faith in something higher than ourselves goes a long way too. Our minds like to think our opinions, thoughts, inclinations, etc. are supreme. Clearly they are not!
 

Mikkael

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Thanks for posting this Renaissance and good for kids to get a lesson like it's demonstrated in the video. It reminds me how much I used to be influenced by people around me throughout my life. We learn by imitating but then if not being conscious we are propagating whatever influence there is. I observe that I am much less influenced now by things like fashion or trendy ideas for example. Still influenced I am to degree. So the key is to notice what influences I manifest and become conscious of it, keeping psychic hygiene as well. What you wrote about taking ownership in learning was big step for me and is probably crucial factor.
 

Renaissance

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We learn by imitating but then if not being conscious we are propagating whatever influence there is.

This is a good point. Imitation of our parents and then peers is a natural part of our development. Porges describes how infants don't have the capacity for regulation so they utilize and imitate their mother's regulation as a form of an external nervous system. The problem is most adults are poorly regulated, essentially children themselves, so children rarely learn how to grow into adults. We stay infantalized and as such don't develop the inner capacities where we can rely (to some extent!) on our ability to think, share, recieve feedback, and process the events around us instead of depending on the 'external authority' to tell us what to think and do.
 

Alejo

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This was rather interesting, thanks for sharing!

it reminded me of this show that was around a while ago. In this one they’re explaining how a form of authority can reshape your memories, specially when those memories are formed during stressful situations, also the importance of word selection is crucial for the response we choose when inquired about it.

 

Alejo

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And take a look at this one about social conformity, it really doesn’t take that much to instill in people a nonsensical habit, if you only sell it to them through the social acceptance avenue. Think about the social distancing and all the mask wearing we see today, or the Je Sui Charlie that we saw a while back:

 
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