I have also found some of the language used to describe the sexual acts and body parts off putting. I can imagine that these may have been titillatingly naughty in the historical period being discussed and amongst the class of people in the stories. These days I associate the terms with derogatory vulgarity that I find difficult to reconcile with something that is supposed to be unifyingly beautiful and a fundamentally creative force - not quite to the degree of the kind of puratinism that judges others where the parties are consenting adults, just more that I personally I would be put off by the language. I realise that while doable, classical conditioning can be a biatch to unravel. At this stage of my life, I'm not sure that working on that particular element is necessary.
I kind of agree and feel similar. It's still far less of a turn off than the often rushed sex scenes almost inevitably thrown into a show or movie, but still it seems unnecessarily explicit at times. I'm back to reading Balogh and she doesn't really do that. I just really like the emotional drama, especially the desire it creates for connection, for a true romantic, heart felt, all in connection with a special other. The heated sexual encounters play into that but some of the authors seem like they are trying to rev up the spiciness level to sell books.
Or maybe I'm really just a prude. (quite possibly)