Menna seemed to understand the issue by himself.
Most people find life incomprehensible as they cannot recognize its meaning and purpose because they see only through their eyes. Therefore everything seems meaningless; their sorrows, their trials, their loneliness. But when you understand that this life is one of many learning periods, one link in a long chain, you will at first sense and later comprehend more and more fully the connections. Then your goal will no longer be immediate happiness through the fulfillment of every single wish in this existence. You will instead direct your vision toward the whole. Thus you can bear the deprivations of this life. And thus you can pass the tests and fulfill the conditions necessary to enter a higher state of existence. An earthly problem is actually the expression of a specific spiritual problem.
We often see that people know this or that, but they still do not perceive the connecting links within themselves. They still look for knowledge somewhere outside of themselves which in itself is good, but not enough. There must be a continuous balancing. The acquired knowledge must always be applied on a personal level, digested and evaluated within, so that harmony is established. To achieve true progress, you have to grow from both sides. New outer knowledge has to be acquired when the old has been integrated and assimilated within. Knowledge must never remain theoretical. It must be put into practice and take root in your personal life to achieve harmony in your progress, real fulfillment, and thus actual progress.
Example: You think that there is nothing worse than pain during a lesson. Defensive reaction is so imbedded in you, and has become so much second nature, that most of the time you are unaware that you are on the defensive. Anger in a sense is a lie. The original feeling is often one of hurt. If you owned up to the original feeling, you would not need to be angry. In pride, due to inferiority, you feel humiliated when you are hurt because you give someone else the power to hurt you. Therefore, you substitute anger for the original pain. Anger seems less shameful, setting you above the other person, rather than feeling your vulnerability which seems an inferior place. Anger lifts you above the true position you find yourself in that of being hurt. In pride, you lie about your real feeling. Thus, anger and pride are connected. The lie is one of self-deception and therefore of self-alienation. It is displacement. Thus, the lie causes negative effects, while owning up to your feelings does not. Hurt, free from anger, cannot negatively affect others. If the primary emotion/hurt is no longer conscious, or if it is intermingled with the secondary emotion of anger, it turns destructive. Whether the anger manifests in deeds or words, or whether it is merely an emanation, makes no difference. When you admit that you feel hurt, you do not cut off the bridge to the other person; in anger, you do. Because in anger, when it is a secondary reaction, you no longer know what you truly feel. You are in error about yourself and therefore you cannot possibly perceive and understand the other person. Whether you call it resentment or hostility, anger or hate, makes no difference; they are all the same. Many other destructive emotions, such as jealousy, envy, or lust, also contain anger.
Whenever you are on the defensive, your primary aim cannot be truth. When it comes to real dangers, the real danger is the truth of the moment, but when it comes to unreal dangers, the truth lies somewhere else. If you run away from truth, and therefore from yourself and from life, the result must be pretense and self-deception, self-alienation and isolation. This message is approved by Red the angry bird.