I actually had a conversation about this with a few friends a while back, the reason the stories in all these contemporary movies with an agenda don't work is because they're forcing the issue and making the story about the ideology and not about the story. In most of the movies that are passing nowadays as empowering to women, the point of the movie is to justify the narrative that seeks to "empower" women.
The stories aren't about the story, it's not something that happens to happen to a woman, it's not how does a character that happens to be a woman overcomes a challenge, and reaches a character arc. Nope, movies and tv series these days are about feminism and diversity and ideology, so they could be more accurately be described as propaganda than story telling.
That's why most people react badly against them, they're not attempting to convey a message of wisdom through a story, they're attempting to convince people that their ideology is correct. And that's not only boring and forgettable but also unreliable and invasive to people's psyche. They're so obsessed with it that they sacrifice the most basic principle of what constitutes a relatable and memorable story.
I'd venture a guess and say that most people resonate with a good story because they see themselves in them, they recognize their humanity in these stories, this humanity is not the unidimensional and empty character that is a "victim of patriarchy", it's the flawed humanity. But what these movies have given us recently is flawless characters, undeservingly strong, unafraid, overtly confident, and that's propaganda and it's boring. It's like if I tried to tell you a story about myself and said the following "So I am really strong because I am me, and so I tried to open up a jar of pickles, and I opened it.. the end" the message I would want to convey? I am strong.
Not only that but, the male bashing is ridiculous and transparently lazy. They reduce not only women to a single dimension of flawlessness, but also males to a caricature of a mean person.
And here's the thing, It does not have to be this way, you can have female stories that are conveyed in relatable ways that does not depreciate any character in the story. Strong woman does not need to mean weak men, on the contraire, some of the best movies I have watched contain a complimentary set of traits that match in male and female characters, and even if they stand in opposition, a respectable villain is a capable one.
I recently watched this video that somewhat illustrates my point in part:
If any of you has seen any of the work of Studio Ghibli, you'd notice that most of their most memorable protagonists are girls or women, but they're so memorable because they overcome their challenges without alienating their female features, without denigrating their male counterparts and because they had something to overcome, that they did so by either embracing their femininity and overcoming character flaws or fears or what have you. A strong woman isn't strong because she takes on male features, disposes of her females ones, and defeats and humiliates the men, but that's what passes for empowering these days.
The saddest part of it is that, despite having one of the most memorable female protagonist, Studio Ghibli's strong women would not pass the test of the feminist nowadays.