Hi Regulattor
I want to thank you (I'm doing a lot of that today?) for posting this as it reminded me exactly Why I dissociated in the first place! Which I'd forgotten!
I'm not married, but have inherit children through my girlfriend and have the same situation.....there diet is not brilliant. Neither is there health.
Regulattor said:
Explaining and talking so far didn't bare fruits either. They gave me this look, what are you talking about!?!
I've found exposing them directly to the truth doesn't work as they dissociate instantly....its also not very externally considerate given they didn't ask for it.
The closest I've had a family member ask for the truth was while my dad was looking over my shoulder last night and read the intro to the latest connecting the dots article. He asked how accurate I thought it was, I said I thought it was mostly accurate - a good working hypothesis.
I struggled to find the right words or work out what to do having not been confronted with someone asking before....and I was very aware of my 'not wanting to hurt someones feelings/cause distress' program. Maybe I bought into that too much.
I did express my concern (using the 1918 Spanish flu pandemic as my data) that flu shots should be avoided (as they caused most of the problem), he agreed. I showed him the UFO videos and left it at that.
For me this is turning into quite a crash course in confronting/observing my own programming. I reread
Depression As A Stepping Stone (to Soul Growth) yesterday and its helping me deal with any negative emotions I feel quite successfully so far. The trick seems to be to distract my mind as you would a small child (in a non restrictive manner) so that my ego/mind doesn't interfear with the natural process of energy flow.
This (its dawning on me) may be the way to deal with the situation at hand, offering a previously unknown
choice through distraction (thus not violating free will). I posted an observation about one of our pet cats some time ago that highlights what I mean.
Free Will and how not to violate it (realising your violating it)
RedFox said:
Last night heading for bed I had to move the cat off it. As usual I said to it (..odd habit perhaps) 'nearly time to get of the bed'.
I then proceeded to work out the best way to move the cat of the bed....then it hit me
By moving the cat off the bed I'm violating its free will...the cat would quite happily stay there otherwise.
I opted offer it some fresh food, and put some more in its dish. He did eventually go for the food then.
outcydr said:
am i seeing this correctly?
of your own concious free will, through the power of suggestion, you manipulated the cat into exercising it's own free will to do what you desired it to do - a desire it was unaware of. in other words you were awake and it was asleep to what was really going on.
So my idea (as best as I can) is to be an appealing example, by cooking delicious detoxing food, offering massarges and heat wraps when I buy the infrared blanket (as well as using it openly), and making epsom salt baths (magnesium sulphate) for myself and others for de-stressing/relaxing (detoxing). I'm not quite sure if I can make the detox shake appetising, but I will give a go. This will be a gradual and flowing transition for myself, and hopefully those around me will choose to join in, but that is there choice.....and I'll have to deal with my emotional dissociation regarding that possibility.
Emotionally facing that possibility is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.....it is going to take some time. I will try not to let avoiding that run my decisions/actions.
I'm reading The Fat Resistance Diet, Detox or Die and Eat Right 4 Your Type at the moment, and will draw up a list of food that are good/bad for each person (depending on there blood type) if possible.
All of this is what I am doing for myself, but hopefully I'm doing it in a way (externally considerate) that will benefit everyone around me. Someone correct me if I'm not being externally considerate. I think replying to you has helped me see things a bit more clearly....of course I may be going off into subjectivity (or a program) here...any feedback on my thoughts welcomed.
Regulattor said:
I thing we should find some effective ways to produce our own CS in case of serious delivery interruptions. Internet is full of various recipes and it's hard to find best one. Any suggestions anybody?
I considered this too, so will probably be buying a CS generator at some point (or perhaps making my own). I'd also appreciate any suggestions as to what works best. I know distilled (mineral free) water is important in its production.